"It's all about how you take it"

I can't recall the number of times, this statement has been directed to me. The interesting part is that it comes from all categories of people: the so called successful and those not so successful, the so called libertarians and those not so liberal, the so called "chilled out" and those not so chilled out. Though, a miniscule statement, more so a generic one, but still highly significant for the ones who take a deep thought before uttering this and for those not so thoughtfull as well. Owing to my feelings of hatred for these "set of words", I generally refrain from uttering them. What makes me detest them, is the fact that the speaker seldom has a rationale to support it, seldom does he try to induce the element of empathy in his life and seldom does he introspect, rather retrospect on why and what he said to someone. A slight change in the statement could bring sense to it. so, lets put it as: " It's all about how you give it". Often we are asked to be prepared to tolerate ruthless people, to be able to manipulatively handle the derogatory remarks that are often directed to us in disguise and not to spoil relations.But seldom does somebody ask us to be humble and forgiving in the true sense, to be able to forgive without the intention of satisfying any personal motives, to be transparent irrespective of the what is coming your way. Not that no one ever asked me to be good, but it never hit me hard enough to actually feel the essence of it. A stress on achieving excellence on the personal front over and above that on the proffessional front could do wonders. Once a child is programmed in a certain manner, he is highly likely to follow and spread the same mannerisms all over. If I could keep a check on how I give it instead of how I take, I could probably be much happier. The " I" here is not a pronoun for myself and but for anyone who's willing to keep a check upon himself. Conditioning plays a major role in our lives, the german society where a person is conditioned to say the truth form the very beginning is a significant example of the fact that anything could be achieved only if "I" desire. On the other hand, the conditioning in our society is completely condradictory, the ones that exist exist here including communal beliefs and traditional practices substantiate the fact that I just mentioned.

I wish " I " could evolve and mould the people in the manner that would transform the very essence of the statement that started it all.